Saturday, February 26, 2011

Nice Girls Just Don't Get It Book Review

Louis P. Frankel, PH. D. will be releasing a new book this summer. She wrote the wonderful book about nice girls not getting the corner office which contained 101 ways women sabotage their careers . She provided great insights and suggestions to improve personal practices such as communicating verbally and through body language.

She is the co-author of the upcoming book, Nice Girls Just Don't Get It 99 Ways to Win the Respect You Deserve, The Success You've Earned, and the Life You Want (Crown Archetype). Frankel and her co-author Carol Frohlinger, J.D. write, "If you are the quintessential nice girl, one who acts in ways she was socialized to behave, others in your life don't have much interest or investment in helping you change."

The book is meant to help female readers become "a winning woman" by using the strategies and tactics recommended by the authors. Once again, Frankel provides a book that has great insights into the ways of too many women, myself included.  Trying to please others first, the disease to please, and failing to believe that you deserve success and respect are symptoms of the nice girl who doesn't get what she wants.

There are several ideas presented that make so much sense including:
  • Charting your network of friends, family, and associates
  • Being SMART (Specific, Measurable, Appropriate, Resistance, Time frame) about what you want
  • Learning how to say no
  • Avoiding perfectionism
  • Being tough on a problem and not on people
The book gets it right beginning with the front cover and the subtitle, win the respect you deserve, the success you've earned, and the life you want. Frankel has a distinct voice in both of the nice girls books and this book has real legs. It is a great read with applicable tips and techniques.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

My Reading Life by Pat Conroy

Pat Conroy is one of my favorite authors with bestselling titles like The Prince of Tides, Beach Music, The Great Santini, and South of Broad among several others. His latest is called My Reading Life (Doubleday, 2010). It is one of those books that makes me ashamed of my own reading life.

Conroy's mother taught him to be a considerable reader and he has continued to read through his adult life. He mentions many of his favorite classics and favorite poets and life changing poetry that has propelled his writing life to the level it is today. As with all of his writings, he truly has perfected the skills of making words sing. Conroy has learned to write like he does because of the reading he has done.

Surprises include how much the book Gone with the Wind meant to his mother. And, Conroy admits he is not good at keeping journals but writes that he has kept journals of words that have caught his attention. He talks about his relationship with his mother and his father whom he has professed to hate most of his young life.

It is a great read except for the guilt factor that comes with the book. I would love to be the kind of reader he describes himself to be. I have read a number of classics but I have to admit that the contemporary writers of today appeal to me more than those of decades ago. Conroy has learned to perfect his craft through his reading which is something any writer should aspire to do.